Drinks, food, and socializing, all on someone else’s dime. I can promise that the first person I have sex with after quarantine is done is going to feel like one special person.This article was published on May 6th, 2017Įveryone loves a good house party. I now know how good it feels to be a sexpot, and I want to make sure my partner gets to experience that same joy. While I don't have the power of 10 men when I compliment my partner-I'm just one man-I know the next time I have sex with someone IRL, I'm going to tell them exactly how much they're turning me on. It wasn’t just a sausage fest, it was a compliments fest. Everyone, myself included, was complimenting everyone who went on screen.
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And let me clarify, this compliments weren't one-directional. It’s nice receiving a flood of compliments from other men. Times where you feel insecure and unsexy.
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No matter how sexually confident you are, you sometimes experience times of doubt. I think everyone deserves a little sexual ego trip from time to time. Receiving sexual compliments from 10 different guys was, truthfully, an ego trip. And even if we do, it’s coming from a single person. ( Aw, thanks guys!)ĭuring IRL sex, we don’t tell our partners how they’re turning us on nearly enough. There’s something both empowering and sexy about being told how what you’re doing is “so hot.” I had one of ten different men at any given point telling me how great I look, how pretty my penis is, and how sexy I am. Not to mention, attendees were incredibly supportive of one another sexually. Imagine watching porn, but you could tell the performers what you wanted them to do in real-time. If I asked a guy on the screen to bend over and spread his cheeks for everyone, those cheeks got spread. Being the host and “pledge master” of the evening, I was encouraged to command the men. Being able to engage with the other men digitally is a goddamn treat. I knew FRAT was going to be arousing, but God, it was so much better than watching even the best porn. Daniel is quarantined with one of his partners, and they had some serious sex on screen. Before I knew it, there were seven or eight of us getting naked, masturbating, and using a wide array of sex toys from Fleshlights to dildos to prostate massagers. All it took was one guy (and I got naked with him, too) to get the party started. Then it was like Pringles: Once you pop, the fun don’t stop. I'd ask them to flash the group or take off their pants. But a few truths in, the guys wanted to be dared, and that’s when dicks and booty started coming out. Like every time someone plays the game, the guys coyly started with truth, and I asked questions about some of the sexy things they’d been doing in quarantine. I began playing Truth or Dare with some of the guys on screen. I think everyone was aware it takes a little bit of time to set the mood and get these things started (just like at an IRL sex party). There were some freezes and people were talking over each other. Was the beginning of the party slightly awkward? Yes, but that's to be expected. People who wanted to get on screen would ask on the chat, and Daniel would switch them in with someone else who’d had plenty of screen time. While the video conferencing site NSFW used only allowed four people to be on screen at once, the chat section was very active. The night started with Daniel and me welcoming everyone to FRAT. And while he said it was good to check in with the attendees and see how everyone is feeling, he wanted me to steer clear of depressing COVID-19 talk. Before the start of the party, Daniel Saynt, founder and "chief conspirator" of NSFW, told me I could play some Truth or Dare questions. Then I put on a leather harness and black jockstrap. That evening I shaved a handlebar mustache into my face-really going for a classic '80s porn star/Tom of Finland aesthetic.
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They want to see (and participate) in the action. After all, people are paying to attend this virtual sex party. But, okay, h ow? When? Too soon and I scare people off, but too late isn't ideal either. So I figured I'd be one of the first to whip out my dick or encourage others who are a little nervous to get on cam to show off. I knew it would involve what’s known as fire starting (those who are the first to get naked and bone at a sex party). I wasn’t exactly sure what a virtual sex party host does. Still, I was pretty nervous to host FRAT, New Society For Wellness’ (NSFW) sex party exclusive to people who identify as male. Virtual sex settings are by far the most responsible way to get sexual pleasure right now, and by God, I need some release.
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But now my mentality has just been screw it.